I'm not sure about other Christians, but I have a hard time saying no. I always feel that it's most kind to accept every invitation, go to every event, and hang out with every friend. I then end up dreading whatever it is that I agreed to do, because I did not want to in the first place. However, God's word says to let your yes be yes and your no be no (Matthew 5:37.) It's okay to say no.
The Point Of This Post Isn't Just To Say "No" to Everything and Everyone
We are saying no to things that are not beneficial to our walk with Christ; not saying "no" to opportunities to help others and show the love of Christ. This is not saying to say "no" when you have the resources to say "yes." (Proverbs 3:28)
Know When You're In a Sowing, Building, or Reaping Season
What I am saying is that in this social media age, we are constantly comparing our current situation to what someone else has posted. The reality is that we rarely see the sowing, building, and struggling seasons.
Most of what we see on social media is the reaping moments, the highlights of the season, and the celebrations. Which is amazing and celebratory, but we should not compare our sowing and building seasons to somebody else's reaping season.
Be content with where God has you and what He is doing in and through you right now.
When you are in a building season, there will be things that you CANNOT AFFORD AND THAT IS OKAY.
Financially and spiritually. This is where the need to say "no" is vital.
Since I’m in a building season, I am becoming comfortable with "no."
“No, I can’t afford to buy that right now”
“No, I can’t afford to go there right now.”
“No, I can’t afford to go back to that right now.”
“No, I can’t afford to hang with who I used to anymore.”
“No, I can’t afford to smoke that.”
“No, I can’t afford to drink that.”
Because I understand that God's "no" is always for a good reason. I understand that when God says "not right now" it's because there is a time and season for everything under the sun. (Ecc 3:1-8.) I understand that God is working all things together for my good. (Romans 8:28)
The call God has on your life is expensive. He purchased it with His son. You simply cannot afford to do every thing when you’re Kingdom focused. It is okay to say "No I can't afford that."
The Point is to Know The Season You're In and Say No to Things That Are Not Conducive to What God is Doing in This Season
Stay focused on where God is leading you, stay focused on what He's doing in your life, and be okay with missing out and saying no. Do not worry about FOMO or Keeping Up With the Joneses. Be a good steward of the time, money, and resources God has given you. Be wise about how you manage what you say, do, or spend. It is okay to say no.
Invitation to Salvation
Hey there! You probably weren't expecting this at the end of a post like this, but I have really good news to share! God desires so much more for us than we know. God desires for us to be restored back to His original design for mankind. I’m sure you’ve heard the story before about Adam & Eve and the fall of humanity (see more here.)
God designed us to display His glory. Unfortunately, we chose to follow our own idea of evil and good, and sin was introduced to the world. For a better understanding and in-depth analysis of why we need salvation please visit these resources!
The Gospel of Jesus Christ
1 Corinthians 15:3
For what I received I passed on to you as of first importance: that Christ died for our sins according to the Scriptures, that he was buried, that he was raised on the third day according to the Scriptures, and that he appeared to Cephas, and then to the Twelve. After that, he appeared to more than five hundred of the brothers and sisters at the same time
But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.
The gospel is God’s good news of reconciliation of Him & mankind. God is not looking for robots to aimlessly follow a leader who will smite them for doing the wrong thing. The truth of the gospel is that God loves us and invites us to dwell with Him in eternity. That is life. God’s overall plan is so much more than we could ever understand, but the beauty is that we don’t have to fully comprehend to believe in Him. Faith comes by hearing, and hearing by the word of God (Romans 10:17). As a result of human nature, we are all destined to die. The wages of sin is death (Romans 6:23). So instead of us having to die eternally and suffer the full sentence of death that came about as a result of sin, God took on that punishment for us. Through Jesus Christ, He justified us through His own blood and made life available to all who would choose to believe.
The gospel is so much more than a story about an angry God who wants to control your life and just send you to hell if you don’t do what He wants. I implore you to study the scriptures and God’s creation and redemption story. He will give you the answers you seek. The gospel is God’s plan to restore us into relationship with Him. Sin keeps us from God.
If you believe, or you feel that God is trying to get you to invite Him into your life, the first step is accepting Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior. Believe that He died for the atonement of your sins (1 John 2:2), that He was buried, and resurrected on the third day, defeating sin and death (Revelation 1:18), and that He invites us to partake in this victory too (Romans 6:5-10.)
So What Must I Do To Be Saved?
It is by grace, through faith! (Ephesians 2:8-9).