I'm not sure about other Christians, but I have a hard time saying no. I always feel that it's most kind to accept every invitation, go to every event, and hang out with every friend. I then end up dreading whatever it is that I agreed to do, because I did not want to in the first place. However, God's word says to let your yes be yes and your no be no (Matthew 5:37.) It's okay to say no.
The Point Of This Post Isn't Just To Say "No" to Everything and Everyone
We are saying no to things that are not beneficial to our walk with Christ; not saying "no" to opportunities to help others and show the love of Christ. This is not saying to say "no" when you have the resources to say "yes." (Proverbs 3:28)
Know When You're In a Sowing, Building, or Reaping Season
What I am saying is that in this social media age, we are constantly comparing our current situation to what someone else has posted. The reality is that we rarely see the sowing, building, and struggling seasons.
Most of what we see on social media is the reaping moments, the highlights of the season, and the celebrations. Which is amazing and celebratory, but we should not compare our sowing and building seasons to somebody else's reaping season.
Be content with where God has you and what He is doing in and through you right now.
When you are in a building season, there will be things that you CANNOT AFFORD AND THAT IS OKAY.
Financially and spiritually. This is where the need to say "no" is vital.
Since I’m in a building season, I am becoming comfortable with "no."
“No, I can’t afford to buy that right now”
“No, I can’t afford to go there right now.”
“No, I can’t afford to go back to that right now.”
“No, I can’t afford to hang with who I used to anymore.”
“No, I can’t afford to smoke that.”
“No, I can’t afford to drink that.”
Because I understand that God's "no" is always for a good reason. I understand that when God says "not right now" it's because there is a time and season for everything under the sun. (Ecc 3:1-8.) I understand that God is working all things together for my good. (Romans 8:28)
The call God has on your life is expensive. He purchased it with His son. You simply cannot afford to do every thing when you’re Kingdom focused. It is okay to say "No I can't afford that."
The Point is to Know The Season You're In and Say No to Things That Are Not Conducive to What God is Doing in This Season
Stay focused on where God is leading you, stay focused on what He's doing in your life, and be okay with missing out and saying no. Do not worry about FOMO or Keeping Up With the Joneses. Be a good steward of the time, money, and resources God has given you. Be wise about how you manage what you say, do, or spend. It is okay to say no.